Some people avoid or reject the term ‘spirituality’. I wonder if the reason is that they connect it with some kind of religious perspective unsuitable for them or maybe because they don’t see themselves as spiritual beings at all. It is true as well that not all of us build up our reality with the same concepts. For example: my Grandma knows nothing about Twitter, sushi, boarding passes, yoga, indie music or original version films. These realities are not part of her world and probably never will be (unless I force her into it, which is totally pointless anyway). So, maybe some people feel that the spiritual side of life has nothing to do with them. Fair enough.
What is the spirit at the end of the day? I think that, within those who use the term, we all have our own definition. To me the spirit has to do with the genuine being, the authentic person behind & underneath all the layouts. The spirit is related to the soul, the deep expression of someone’s personality and energy, an aura of vibrations that communicates essential information about that person. We might see it as something weird or paranormal but we can all feel it, whether we like to admit it or not.
So let’s accept, at least during the time that it will take you to read this post, that the spirit exists, that our spiritual being is something real even within its invisibility. Taking that into account and according to Indian sources, spirituality is based on 4 main laws (for those interested in Indian culture follow Arise India Forum):
1- ‘The person who arrives in our life is always the correct one’.
Which means that there is no such thing as coincidence and every person that enters our life comes for a reason, to teach us something that is relevant to our experience & development. There is another thought connected to this one that says something like this: ‘people come to our life for a reason, for a season or for a life time’. Even if they stay for a short period of time there is a point for that presence and we must honour & embrace the learning brought up by that person into our life.
2- ‘Whatever happens to us is the only thing that could have happened’.
There is no room for thoughts such as: ‘if I hadn’t picked up that phone call I would have left 10 minutes earlier and as a consequence I would never have been involved in that car accident’. Every single thing that happens to us is meant to happen that way. Some might call this ‘destiny’ and many can be very much against this term (history repeating) but according to this law the character played by Gwyneth Paltrow in Sliding doors did not have a choice either, even if her mind refused to accept it.
3- ‘Every moment in our life happens only when it has to happen’.
Not before or after but only when we are prepared. So when we say that something is taking too long, that we are slow or we are not getting the results we were expecting by then, we are very much avoiding this law. Everything is perfect the way it is and it is not supposed to happen any other way (this makes me think about two conversations I had recently with two dear friends & colleagues. Mr Nutini, just let it be, my friend, all is well as it is; @logropersonal, well done with all your progressions, you are getting there at your pace, which is the right way for you).
4- ‘When something has to end, it just ends’.
The thing that finishes is letting space, room and energy to something new, and our role here is to learn how to let go in order to allow new things coming in. The Buddhist ‘non-attachment’ leads into individual freedom & peace of mind because most of the times it is not in our hands to control when things come to an end. Dalai Lama states that “attachment is the origin, the root of suffering; hence it is the cause of suffering.” It is just a matter of acceptance instead of fighting, flowing instead of reacting to life’s movements. Nothing lasts forever. Everything is exposed to changes all the time.
These 4 laws make total sense to me & apply to my life and experiences in every single example that I choose to analyse. It doesn’t matter about religions really because true spirituality can be Christian, Buddhist, Muslim or atheist. I can see & feel a genuine spirit, or a fake one, behind any of those labels. Jesus Christ and Buddha share the same true spirit. We can get together & live as one. All is well. Just live and let it be.