Personal development

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Dec.
2013
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Integrating discomfort in 7 steps

There are times in our lives (maybe days or even weeks) when we seem to be embracing discomfort or experiencing thoughts & emotions that disturb us (anger, sadness, depression, frustration…). Sometimes they seem to seize us, just like if they had a life of their own. Then we can get angry, ignore them, withdraw them, silence them, tell ourselves we will take care of them later or just surrender to them by letting us be dragged by their strength or inertia.
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Oct.
2013
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Just breathe

I always keep thinking about this idea that goes round & round through my mind: why, even when we know that something is harmful to us, we keep doing it. Even if it hurts, even if it makes us feel bad. We all have our personal trap: smoking, drinking, watching crap tv programs, spend time with people who are bad for us, falling into chains of negative thinking, criticising, eating with no measure, self-medicating…
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Oct.
2013
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Grieving with other's sorrow

If you know me a bit, then you know that dealing with death feels now quite natural to me. If you don’t know me much but you read me here, you’ve probably seen my true colours at some pooint. I am sure I used to feel more scared about death before I had her close to me, however, I cannot remember anymore how it was before she came. I am aware now of the fact that her existence became pretty familiar to me one day and since then, she’s got her space reserved, and that, actually, makes me feel good.
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Sep.
2013
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Successful relationships


Successful relationships: personal ones, friendly, professional, romantic, family relationships… Flowing, satisfactory, happy, fulfilling relationships in which we enjoy and where we can relax and feel comfortable, where we can find honesty & truthful availability. Where are they? How can we achieve them? What to do to display them and above all, what to do to keep them? Because sometimes they seem unattainable, light years away from our possibilities.
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Jul.
2013
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Blue or red pill?


I wrote here once about the power of kindness and today, I want to take it a little bit further, after having a few conversations recently about how to give feedback or how to generate creative & more productive interactions between us. To me this is always a very valuable and necessary ability, but even more at challenging times like the ones we are going through at the moment.


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May.
2013
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Mindfulness

A couple of weeks ago I was sharing right here a therapeutic & self-knowledge path in 7 steps and here I am today repeating Lumber. Not that numerology is a compass to me but number 7 seems to be a magical ancient number in many cultures anyway. Today I bring it here to approach the concept of mindfulness just like John Kabat-Zinn understands it, stripped of any religious or even spiritual apparel, simply as an efficient tool to deal with stress, to quiet the mind & to live the present moment (for those who want to practise this meditation path I do also recommend the system designed by Artie Wu).
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May.
2013
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Path to joy

It happens to me quite often that I opt for options having the inner feeling that actually those options opted for me instead. Does it make sense? It is like being at my favourite ice cream shop, seeing all those flavours at my reach. I don’t fancy all of them, maybe four or five get my special attention. As I’ve recovered the pleasure for playing, I get out my comfort zone by trying new flavours and when making the final choice, there is always one that talks to me louder than the others. So I make my decision & the world of possibilities displays itself for my eyes only. And everything clicks. Does it happen to you too?
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May.
2013
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Living the pain

“Painful, isn’t it? Well, lump it.”

It probably sounds familiar to many and it might sound disheartening said like that, but at the end of the day it is a unavoidable reality.
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May.
2013
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Back to the roots

Sometimes I go through daily events that I find difficult to understand and I have to make an effort to accept how others get away with things in that 6 lanes highway that they call the ‘real world’.
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Mar.
2013
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Anchoring

I am driving on the A7 (Autovía del Mediterráneo) from Málaga towards Marbella-Algeciras. Three lanes that run up hill for a bit and then, at one point, very close to the exit to Benalmádena Pueblo, the road hits a flat point where the Mediterranean is right in front on me, slightly to my left, looking peacefully blue, and the Mijas mountain range is on my right, powerful & modest.

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