Summertime invites leisure, rest, relax, winds of change, adventure even… Many of us can have a break at any time of the year; summer, however, seems to be the ultimate holiday season.
I’ve been working over the last couple of weeks on assignments needed to complete a training course. Two of them were actually handicrafts tasks somehow and I don’t consider myself very good at that but I aimed to do a good job.
I wrote here once about the power of kindness and today, I want to take it a little bit further, after having a few conversations recently about how to give feedback or how to generate creative & more productive interactions between us. To me this is always a very valuable and necessary ability, but even more at challenging times like the ones we are going through at the moment.
Oh yes! We are all so busy always! Work, house, children, husband, ex-husband, boyfriend, cat, parents, siblings, friends, gym, yoga, Chinese lessons, cooking lessons, hairdresser, social networks, newspapers, volunteer work, cinema, facial mask, 7 hours sleep… And only 24 hours a day!
Adolescents are those languid & gawky creatures who move around showing off but also looking insecure & fearful at the same time, displaying their weaknesses without noticing it. That’s how pure & honest they are, as they don’t know how to fake anything or even protect themselves properly. They simply are what they are, living each day as it comes, getting the most out of it, intensely, graduated in the present moment as there is nothing else than that to them; or maybe there is. Maybe they can think about next Friday, when they will go out again with their friends, feeling free after spending a whole week restricted within a reality that is mainly set by the dominating adults.
My degree was in Hispanic Philology and there were several reasons for me to make that choice, but that’s not today's point. I love language as a vehicle & communication as a tool to develop relationships (and I am aware that there are other ways to communicate apart from words). What I would like to share here today is how we get caught sometimes in fruitless discussions just because we insist to fight tooth & nail to defend what we personally understand that a certain concept means to us. Respect, coherence, education, optimism, freedom, partnership, happiness, therapist… Just to give some close & recent examples.
It was only around four years ago when with the help of someone who didn’t know me or knew anything about me, someone who asked the right questions & listened to me with interest & attention, all of the sudden I realised that I don’t need to convince anyone about anything, there is nothing I need to sell, I don’t have to please them or to meet their expectations ever again.
A couple of weeks ago I was sharing right here a therapeutic & self-knowledge path in 7 steps and here I am today repeating Lumber. Not that numerology is a compass to me but number 7 seems to be a magical ancient number in many cultures anyway. Today I bring it here to approach the concept of mindfulness just like John Kabat-Zinn understands it, stripped of any religious or even spiritual apparel, simply as an efficient tool to deal with stress, to quiet the mind & to live the present moment (for those who want to practise this meditation path I do also recommend the system designed by Artie Wu).
Today’s post comes full of echoes & contents, mine & from others, all juicy & fresh. There is no secret about the fact that life goes on; racing minds & intrepid hearts keep beating at their own rhythms while some speakers keep focusing on more partial & less empowering perspectives, ones that explain reality from a less inspiring point of view.
It happens to me quite often that I opt for options having the inner feeling that actually those options opted for me instead. Does it make sense? It is like being at my favourite ice cream shop, seeing all those flavours at my reach. I don’t fancy all of them, maybe four or five get my special attention. As I’ve recovered the pleasure for playing, I get out my comfort zone by trying new flavours and when making the final choice, there is always one that talks to me louder than the others. So I make my decision & the world of possibilities displays itself for my eyes only. And everything clicks. Does it happen to you too?