Some people enjoy an iron constitution, being sturdy as centenarian trees. They hardly catch a cold or suffer from the stomach and their lives pass without visiting the doctor, not becoming ever operating theatre flesh. They never wonder why things are like that. They simply see themselves as strong by nature and, as a consequence, as very lucky people indeed.
Others feel and suffer from illness & ailments all the time through their lives, building up chemical armories at their homes, transforming the visit to the doctor into a normal habit. They’ve experienced fear due to the scalpel closeness and also the anesthetic side effects. They might see themselves as physically weak or the result of a genetic biology that didn’t play to their favour.
Between one group and the other there is a vast majority that moves from usual flue to appendicitis perhaps, tooth decay maybe, headache or tensed muscles, indigestion in some cases, mutilated tonsils or backaches. They might fight against all that with rest, diet, painkillers or home made remedies, going to the doctors when they think is needed. They are not strong, neither weak. They are just common people who catch diseases, develop viruses or spread germs. They might find explanations in the stress they go through, the excesses they’ve made or the family heredity.
There is, however, a fourth group of people who see illness or discomfort in a different way: as the somatisation of a repressed, blocked or neglected emotion. These people look at pain (or at the expression of that pain) face to face, asking it: ‘What’s the message that you have for me? What are you coming to show me?’
Jacques Martel is a French-Canadian doctor, also Reiki Master who wrote the book The complete dictionary of ailments and diseases. In this book he develops this theory about health and illness.
Martel (and this might sound familiar to those who know about coaching & NLP) explains how our mind generates a thought first, and that thought creates an emotion or feeling.
The painful emotion, he says, comes from a lack of love situation, and illness is the concious & subconscious interpretation of that lack situation. When we hide an emotion, and we mainly do it because it is causing us pain (anger, rejection, sadness, disappointment,…), we cause a wound to ourselves that is recorded in our heart and in our cell memory. Human nature tends to hide or to make disappear of its conscious memory whatever is bothering or hurting.
Accepting this means then:
1- Realising about our personal awareness
2- Expanding individual responsability
If somebody offends me, cause me harm or is unfair towards me, I would say ‘that person hurted me’ or ‘what he did to me really hurts’. If I say or do something about it, I am starting the path of compensation after the damage I’ve been inflicted. If I stay quiet hiding my discomfort, that pain might castle within, becoming callused with time and having to surface at some point in order to get an exit. That’s how wise our body is, as it cannot tolerate the enemy indoors for too long. We might let him stay freely but there is a point when our loving body decides to send him off. Sometimes, by then, we’ve already paid a high price for that stay, and the responsibility it is always ours, whether we are conscious or not about it.
Understanding illness this way might be nonsense, an offense or a lie for some, and that’s ok. There are as many realities as people in the world. I just believe that this metaphysical health perspective brings me back my inner power and I do like to live like that.
A few weeks ago I learnt that the longest path that a human being must walk through is the one between head to heart (that’s what Bert Hellinger states). My Master at the time threw that categorical statement to us and I stayed stock-still digesting that certainty.
There is not doubt about it: it is very difficult for human beings to move from the brain to the emotion, from rational thoughts to emotional feelings. Still many maintain that the mind is in charge, being the rational part of us the important one, being feelings and emotions only weakness. That was science's foundation for centuries. Thankfully, we are witnessing today a genuine rapprochement between different streams of consciousness & investigation that will take us to higher levels of knowledge & action, for our own good.
Michael Brown states on his Presence Process states that taking medicines or drugs is simply a way to escape, a reaction to reality, being the medicine or the drug only a temporary solution, a short term patch that only relieves the symptom without healing the root of the problem. If instead of reacting we respond, we will be opening the door to a deeper & mysterious reality, which is who we are at the end of the day.
This path of individual responsibility & personal awareness is to be made by whoever decides to and always at their very own pace. The power over our own health deserves a try, don’t you agree?
P.S.: The image above is a collage on Japanese paper courtesy of the artist & writer Fernando González Viñas.
"O Rose, thou art sick.
The invisible worm,
that flies in the night
in the howling storm,
Has found out thy bed
of crimson joy;
and his dark secret love
does thy life destroy."
The sick rose, by William Blake